Do you feel guilty when you take 'me time'?

Helen McGillivray is a psychological therapist with over 28 years of clinical experience, including 14 years providing psychological therapies. She specialises in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. Helen is accredited with

The BACBP, the leading organisation for cognitive and behavioural therapies in the UK.

In this blog, Helen tells us about taking some time to herself and reflecting on how this made her feel



Today I had my first session with The Impact Guru, Esther, something I have committed to for me. I did not discuss it with anyone, just decided that this is work I have been needing to do for a long time. My career has always been around caring for others, and being a mum also involves muchous caring, so why should it be so difficult to make an investment in me?


After a bright start (due to a left in hair roller), Esther highlighted some things about me that my future audience might like to hear.


I felt a real sense of 'wow I can actually do this'

We closed the session with some action points, but what happened next? I noticed a light feeling and a sense of pride as I took the puppy for a walk, and then ideas started forming in my head (made a change from the endless to do lists).


I also had a real connection with my imposter syndrome, and how as much as it tries to help, it really does get in the way of me doing what I am so capable of doing.

Later that evening, carrying all these feelings, I climbed up Dougle’s hill to admire spectacular views, and watched the most spectacular sunset. I embraced the strong and capable woman I know I am.


And I felt….


on top of the world...this is what happens when we take care of you